tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661612631368159278.post2405565149480335302..comments2023-10-04T01:59:18.550-07:00Comments on Comfortable in my Natural State: THE COMPLEX HAITIAN MENTALITYTarra Luhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01284387538989256661noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661612631368159278.post-27055268369312287062014-03-22T19:07:29.915-07:002014-03-22T19:07:29.915-07:00You nailed it! That's the story of our lives! ...You nailed it! That's the story of our lives! I call it "Haitian way of life".Inahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338356362209079858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661612631368159278.post-39045440160070257612014-03-22T19:01:25.033-07:002014-03-22T19:01:25.033-07:00Go ina, Haitian parents are loving, BUT they are a...Go ina, Haitian parents are loving, BUT they are a bunch of dictators. They want to pic your friends, career, spouse, the church you attend, how you dress, how you answer your phone( "God bless you"), when to answer your phone (m-relew ou pap pran telefone nan!) I call you but you won't pick up. It does not even matter if you could not at the time. They can sometime drive their own children to do bad things because they don't get that kids have real feeling that can get hurt. Kid: mom, dad i can't become an engineer. Parents: why? Kid: I am not good in math. Parents: you are not like me you are dumb. Why can't you be like that guy's kid from church.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661612631368159278.post-41743381278480106352014-03-22T13:41:02.280-07:002014-03-22T13:41:02.280-07:00I've always pleased my parents as a child. Til...I've always pleased my parents as a child. Til this day I try to please them but I learned a long time ago that I had to live with my career choices. So, when ever they mentioned nursing, I told them that being a nurse wouldn't make me happy. Today I am happy getting my B.S in special education. Inahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338356362209079858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661612631368159278.post-66385177400826515842012-02-10T11:18:56.497-08:002012-02-10T11:18:56.497-08:00As a 31 yr/old Haitian/American man, I understand ...As a 31 yr/old Haitian/American man, I understand your dilemma. Here's the way I see things... Haiti is a "free" country but the mental, emotional, and societal effects of slavery last generations. The Haitian culture is still in the process of "coming out of Egypt" in many ways. Haitians have never experienced a well functioning society and are incredibly ignorant and opposed to anything outside of their experience. I went into college as a engineering major, denying my passions of business and computer graphics. I wasted thousands of dollars and years I can't get back in my attempt to appease the parents. They are notorious for trying to live vicariously through their kids. I know this is an old article and I hope you're living your dream.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com